You know what is absolutely fascinating to me? This type of person: holds a grudge for years, based on reality or not, and refuses to release people/person who has allegedly wounded them, even when they have asked for forgiveness (yes, I'm on the sidelines watching this one). But it's not simply this TYPE of person-- we all struggle with something like this at some point in our lives, I'm sure.
No, it is not just the struggle to release a grudge, but that out of that same mouth comes praise! How can that mouth both bless and curse? Can we? Can our worship be acceptable? Is it not the height of hypocrisy to blather on about how free or insightful or gifted we are in the place of worship/teaching/missions/ (insert righteous activity here) and yet walk in serious unforgiveness?
That same person scratches his or her head and wonders why the Lord will not release him/her into the fulness of the ministry they know the Lord has called them to. Hm.
Again, I know we all struggle-- but when a man or a woman falls into this trap, it becomes nearly impossible to communicate with them. I've been there-- unforgiveness is a curse and a trap and it stands between us and the Lord. He said, when you have a gift, bring it to the altar, then if something is wrong with a brother or sister, go and make things right with them and then return. Man, we have to stay current on that point. Things can really pile up-- especially when we feel justified. Feeling justified seems to be one of the most dangerous feelings ever when it comes to the subject of forgiveness....